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Sorry this is a bit late today. I’ve been waking up earlier and working on posts, but I’m a bit under the weather this morning and waiting to get into the doctor.
Needless to say, I thought I had a lot in mind to write about, but now I’m feeling so terrible, my brain is kind of fuzzy.
So our last post we talked about how we had struggles within out marriages. My marriages has had them, too. As I mentioned, we are working on it always. I think as for what we’ve been through, it’s pretty natural for us to put our kiddos first. They are our priority and I think God has made it clear that’s just the stage we are in. We are both a little over protective and we both like our time with them. We like our time all together.
We still are each other’s priority. We are one in our marriage.
I think one thing that has helped keep our marriage alive, or perhaps we will use the world thriving, is time. We have time together and we have quite a bit of it. Our kids give us time together. Remember the
We take time to go on dates.
We take time to send text messages just to say hey or flirt.
We take time away from each other, too, even if it’s for work or a blog conference, or a night out with our friends. We all need a little space and interaction with other aspects of our lives.
We take time to talk about our future.
We take time to just sit together and say nothing.
We just make time for these things.
Something else I’ve come to realize, and this may be off topic, but have you ever seen your kiddos expression when you and your husband give each other a kiss or a big hug in front of them? Knox & Sloane get the biggest grins on their face, and often lift their shoulders, and it’s ridiculously cute. I don’t know if I just hadn’t noticed or looked over at them, or if they just started doing it, but I think they are tickled to see it. They need to know that mommy and daddy are one. Sure we love and kiss on them, but I think it can only be a good thing if they see us do the same.
We are very lucky that Brent doesn’t have to travel all too often for work, usually once or twice a month, and when he does we still keep in contact even if it’s just a few texts and a phone call goodnight. I also will be completely honest when I say I told Brent we could live off bread and live in an tiny apartment if that meant he wouldn’t have to travel a lot for work. That wasn’t something that I saw happening in my marriage. I know some marriages do great with someone traveling non-stop for work, but from the very beginning, I knew I was willing to sacrifice anything in order for him not to have to take a job that required a lot of traveling. God placed that heavy on my heart. I feel like this time is meant to spent with each other and our children and no amount money could change that for me.
We are also very fortunate that Knox & Sloane have most of their grandparents living close by. They love to play with them and it is very nice for Brent and I to be able to leave the house. When we go on date nights and such, we don’t really feel like we are leaving Knox & Sloane because they are sleeping. From being at home for so long 25 weeks pregnant until now, without doing Mother’s Day (they started a few weeks ago) or anything, I definitely felt like I was getting cabin fever. So, it’s really uplifting for me to go to dinner with Brent or for us to meet for dinner or a movie with friends.
Brent and I haven’t gotten on a trip together in a long time and we decided that we would in the fall. We are very excited for that.
Back to my previous post and those struggles, we had put off going to church consistently whether it was because I was waddling and pregnant or the babies were…well babies. We are back to making time for that and I think that will also help us have the time we need there with each other.
I know everyone has schedules, but just think about time. This life is going quickly and we should make the best of it. It’s easy for me to know my priorities, as for people, and those are the things I devote the most time to. It doesn’t matter if you have four hours with your spouse a day, or ten minutes, even a little bit is some communication. That’s really what it’s all about. Time allows for communication. If you don’t communicate with your spouse, it’s hard to really know them.
*I do know all situations are different and this is our situation and my opinions right now 🙂
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