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Today is an introduction to our story 🙂
I headed to college in 2002. I was excited and I really told myself that I’d be a single girl for a while. Moving away from a relationship was enough to make me want to just be for a while.
I had met a few girls at orientation that I kept in touch with up until school started. Once school started, it was so nice to have them and feel like I already knew people at college. Turns out, they were from Tulsa, Oklahoma. I hadn’t ever met anyone from Tulsa.
It was about our second week of school when they invited me to go with them to a fraternity party. I don’t think it was any type of official party with a theme or anything. They knew a few people in the fraternity as they had grown up with them.
Brent shared a room with one other guy and when we walked it I remember a Cee-Lo song being on and I think Brent was dancing on their coffee table. No, he hadn’t had any alcohol and in fact, he had just gotten back from some sort of intramural practice. He was in a t-shirt, gym shorts and socks. He jumped off of the table to introduce himself. The first thing I notice, well I guess second next to his attire, he had a black eye. He had been in a four wheeler accident. I thought that was rather interesting …or scary.
He offered me a chair and I declined. He offered me a drink and I declined.
When we left, he called one of the girls and asked for my phone number. To this day, he says he really wondered why I wouldn’t accept his offers, ha!
I think it was probably a week later when we went on a date. We saw Swimfan. I don’t think we held hands and I know there wasn’t a goodnight kiss, although he called my friend and told her he wishes there would have been 😉 Thinking back, a movie is kind of a hard first date because you don’t get to talk much.
Thank goodness for AOL, right? I mean I feel like AOL instant messenger started every relationship I had been in at this point. We talked on AOL and soon were off on our next date. I don’t think there was any point where we decided our relationship was official, but we continued to go on dates and just hang out. We’ve been together ever since.
When I met Brent I was 18 and he had just turned 21 a few months prior. Though he was a bit older and started working while I was in school, I still enjoyed every bit of school, or “the college life” that I wanted to. I didn’t do a sorority, which I know was a good thing. I still attended all kinds of functions and what not. I also ran a new hotel and got good grades, all while sleeping very little. I think those four years with Brent and being in college were wonderful and I wouldn’t change a thing.
We lived together before marriage. Instead of going home my first summer, like many girls my age were doing, I stayed. I lived in his apartment. It was great for us. We lived together from then on. My parents were okay with this for probably a few reasons: 1.) They knew how much we loved each other, already. 2.) They lived together in college and hid it from my mom’s parents for a bit. They didn’t want me to do the same. They thought living together was good for them before marriage..and well, they are still married, almost 40 years later. I’ve seen first-hand how hard it can be when couples first move in together once they get married, and I think it can cause a lot of tough situations right off the bat. We knew each other living habits way before we ever married, also something else I would do the exact same if I were to do it over again. It worked great for us.
We got our first dog, Elton, who was pretty much the best dog ever for us at that time. He was easy to train and we both feel as though he gave us good training to be parents. He was our baby and we treated him like it. We didn’t always work and go to school on the same schedule, so someone was always home to spend a lot of time with Elton. I’ll continue the Elton story in the future.
In July of 2005, we went on vacation to New York City. Brent had plans of proposing on top of the Empire State Building, but it was freezing, sprinkling and windy and there was a huge group of foreign tourists on a tour. He ended up doing it at Tavern on the Green during dessert. He had a cake brought out that read, “Will You Marry Me?” 🙂 I clearly said yes. I blog all of the story here.
About fifteen months later, in October 2006, we got married. It was the perfect day to start our life as one. We were surrounded by our friends and family and made the commitment to one another under God. I had my fairytale wedding, and although I wish I would have picked a different dress, I’ve always said it’s not all about the big day, it’s truly about all the big days that follow. Everything was perfect.
We did two appointments of marriage counseling that we were asked to do, and while I think it can be a great, at that point we had been together for four years, living together, paying bills together and had a dog. Of course we had arguments, and though at times, we didn’t always work things out the way we do now, we already had a lot figured out. It was nice to have someone listen to us, talk to us and confirm that our relationship was ready to be a married one 🙂
We honeymooned in St.Lucia and it was amazing.
I think I’ll stop at that point. I actually started blogging not too long after we got married. That’s kind of crazy to think. If you’ve been reading since the beginning, you probably have an insight into our lives. Although, I haven’t and won’t always blog everything. With this series, though, I’ll probably share more than I have or perhaps go into depth on some things I’ve hit on before or that I haven’t talked about yet.
I’d love for you to join us!
How did your life begin together?