This is the final week for the marriage series. I have enjoyed doing this SO much! All of the ladies that participated are great and I’ve definitely learned something from their stories.
We would love for you all to link up!!
The last post is our closing thoughts, advice, perspectives, etc.
The first thing that comes to mind is what I want my marriage to be. I want it to be happy; I want it to be real; I want it to be honest; I want it to be an example.
I pray for these things.
Who do I want it to be these things to? To God, myself, Brent and our children.
Brent and I both grew up with different family dynamics, but still similar. His parents got divorced when he was very young, but both found their new spouse very soon after. They are still with those people. So, regardless to his parents not staying married, and mine that have, we both saw them love other people and be in relationships with other people.
In a marriage, I believe you are one. Of course you don’t have to lose your identity as a person and the things you like and who are you. However, I feel like God puts you with a spouse to be one with them; to live your life with them. I think the key word being with. If you have children with someone then they are going to be watching your marriage as one. Essentially, they are going to learn how marriage works and what it’s all about.
I mentioned last week, and got quite a bit of feedback, about interaction between husband and wife in front of their children, specifically a kiss. I guess this kind of goes back to that. It’s not just a kiss they will see.
They need to see interaction. They need to see both spouses be present for one another and for them. We are our children’s best teacher. We need to lead by example. I just sit and think about so many children out there, and though I do think we are a product of how we are raised, of course I don’t think it has to stay that way. I just think parents need to be fully aware that these little lives are ones they are forming.
I know, even after my short time being a parent, that can be easier said than done.
If you want your children to learn about God, talk to them. Tell them about him. Take them to church if that’s what works best for your family. God has taught us a lot and that’s something that I want my children to have comfort in as well. I pray they have a relationship with Him and I want to help teach them about Him.
I want our children to have a successful relationship with each other and with others. I want them to know how a relationship works, whether it’s a marriage or a friendship, or even the relationship between a child and parent.
That puts a lot of pressure on me. They are learning from me.
That’s what I signed up for.
I just often have to step back and think about how they are going to see Brent and I handle certain situations. No, I don’t think life is rainbows and butterflies. Of course we are going to snap or say something snippy to one another in front of them. I honestly don’t believe that it’s healthy for them to never to see us argue, because that would be setting up a false sense of reality, but I don’t think every argument should be played out in front of them.
Kids start listening early and I think often times it’s earlier than most realize. They are soaking everything in.
With the internet, movie stars and everything that this world is about these days, I think that does give everyone kind of a false sense of what may be going on. I can’t tell you the order in which you should prioritize things, but I can tell you that your kids will be watching and learning.
That is my perspective and my hopes 🙂
I would love to connect with those new readers from this marriage series 🙂 You can always fine me here and my social media buttons are under my pics up top. I’d love to check out your blog as well!
*If you haven’t gotten Mother’s Day cards yet, or you want to personalize some, check out THIS deal!
*Be sure to check out the wonderful giveaway this week!
*I had to make some adjustments on my mobile platform, but it should be fixed and working now 🙂