Last week, Brent was getting ready for work and I was sitting on our bed pumping. He, like any normal person, is particular about which white t-shirt is his favorite. In his closet, there is a variety of sizes and brands, mostly due to me having been pregnant and getting big and bigger tummies each time. Anyways, he couldn’t find the right size and brand that he prefers.
So naturally, he asks me if I can do some laundry.
I think to myself, I’ve done laundry. Haven’t I?
But have I?
I think I’ve been so set on keeping the babies on the schedule because they are doing great, that I’ve not actually set any structure for myself.
I know I’ve probably made mention 100 times, I don’t mind doing laundry, but I despise putting it away.
Well now, it’s not that I’m not putting it away, but it’s hardly making it down the hall to the laundry room. Then, when it does, it’s lucky if it makes it back.
Laundry isn’t something I want Brent to do. He honestly doesn’t have the time. I do. However, I’ve found myself doing things with my time that is not laundry. Why? because it’s more fun or takes less energy. Honesty, people.
My schedule…uhh, the babies….schedule is as follows….
The babies wake anywhere from 6:30 to 7:30. They are up for an hour to an hour and a half and go back down for a nap. (Brent is here during this time and he puts them down for nap while I’m pumping.)
nap until 10:30am
awake 10:30 -12
For the most part, they are awake 4:30 until bath time, which starts anywhere from 6:30-7.
We are usually doing bath/bedtime routine for about an hour.
They are waking from some naps about 15 minutes early as we are about to take away the nap swaddle (because they are ready.) So, usually I have anywhere from 3 to 4 1/2 hours where they may be asleep. When they aren’t asleep, I’m with them. I love watching what they are doing and how they are changing. I will sometimes fold their laundry while they play, but for the most part, I interact or watch. Sometimes I check twitter and read some blogs (via phone) while they are nursing, but when I look down and they are staring up at me, I feel bad having my attention on something else. Cheesy, maybe.
So, what do I do during their nap times? For about 30 minutes of the morning nap, I pump. Other than that, I do what ever pops to the top of my mind. I try to have quite time. I will occasionally nap during their morning nap. For 45 minutes the other day, I was on the phone with the county treasurer’s office trying to figure out the status on our taxes that we paid before moving. I mean that’s clearly money we are due back. I walk Elton for a few minutes in the back yard, or watch him like a hawk, with the door open. I try to get a shower in. I try to tidy the kitchen, bedroom, etc..I try to get a blog post in and respond to a few emails. I try to read a few blogs. I try to unpack a box. I try to eat. I try to do laundry some days.
I try to do a lot of things, but they need to be prioritized.
Brent wasn’t at all saying I don’t do anything. Believe me, he knows the babies schedule from being home on the weekend and he sees how hard it is to actually start something and finish it.
He knows we both stay up too late because come Saturday morning, he wants to nap during the babies’ nap as well. We want to set a bedtime goal and follow through with it. We are such night owls. I don’t want to feel like I need a nap after I pump in the mornings. I really only ‘morning nap’ about once a week, but still, there are other mornings where I’d like to.
I think the problem with laundry…. I may put a load in, but honestly, it might be the next day before I can really complete it. I’ve always been good about not drying clothes. Staying wet equals stinky. So, I typically make mental note they must at least get started in the dryer, but, it might be 24 hours before I get back to them. Thus, having to get them damp and re dry them so they don’t look horribly wrinkled. Then, the cycle starts over…..when will I get back to them?
I know, I have twin babies. This is true. A lot of people have two plus kids. Sure, I get exhausted, but I still have a lot of other things I have to do; other things I want to do. And while I really want to pick paint colors and pin dreamy rooms on Pinterest, I want to prioritize getting ‘chores’ done, having quiet time and putting myself together. I think I do a good job and putting the babies and Brent at the top of my list I want to make a meal and have it ready to eat once the babies go to bed.
Three to four and a half hours really isn’t a long time, especially when it is all chopped up. I also know it’s not going to get easier. To me, this baby stage is actually pretty easy. I think it has a lot to do with having them on such a structured schedule. I think once they start crawling, walking, talking, etc., that’s when finding time for other things will probably get even more tricky.
So, I think this about sums up my goals for this year. No, laundry will never come first. Luckily, I think I’m putting the important things first already, as I mentioned above. I just want to get myself on a schedule to be the best I can be and do the best at what I’m going to do
Do you set a schedule or have structure for yourself?