Today Brent and I have been married for four years
We were fortunate to have the day we said “I do” in the crisp month of October. The day was perfect and the wedding was perfect
I met Brent my second week of college. We started dating closely there after. I was 18 years old and he had just turned 21 (I was turning 19 a few months after). That was in 2002. We have now been together for 8 years. We did live together before we got married. That worked for us. I wouldn’t have changed a thing. We dated four years before we got engaged. You can read about our engagement story here It’s part of the reason I love NYC so much!
I think we’ve done really “good” at marriage. I don’t really know what I mean by that, besides we have our ups and downs, but we are always good. Marriage is something you have to work at. You have to give as much as you take. You have to talk a good portion as much as you think.
This year, Brent and I have experienced the greatest joy in life and we’ve experienced the biggest tragedy in life. All in two weeks. I think those can be seen in these two slideshows. They can’t be felt by anyone but us, and that alone is sacred. Of course, we hope no one ever has to experience losing a child. At Cohen’s Memorial service, the pastor really spoke to us about being there for one another and for our marriage. I never had a doubt that we wouldn’t be, but we listed to him. We still have a marriage no matter what happens to us. We have to keep working at it like we did before. We are different people than we were before the greatest joy and the biggest tragedy. We weren’t parents like we are now. Unfortunately, we are now parents with no baby to hold.
I’ll stop now. I just think this year a marriage has meant a lot to us. Our marriage has grown. I knew a marriage was not all about the big day, but all the big days that follow. I think it’s all about the vows on the big day. Nothing makes what we’ve been through this summer easier, but I sure am glad Brent is the one I’ve had by my side
So, I dug a few pictures out I hadn’t posted before….at least I don’t think I have. I know they are pictures of pictures, but I don’t have a scanner. I know when I was pregnant, I always talked about posting pictures of us when we were little. I came across that box the other day and I’ll now post just a few.
For accurate measures, here is our proudest picture….
I think my second favorite picture of us this year is this one. This was on my birthday 1.4.10. Cohen was definitely visible and we had not yet found out about his broken little heart. It is a family picture.
Now here are a few old ones….
This was during the first few weeks we started dating….
This was during an engagement photoshoot.
Here are a few from us as little Brent and little Meg….